I went on a summer programme (ATW) in Japana's Kyūshu University (Kyūdai) in June 2008 and almost half of the 64 exchange students were from Singapore.
One of the Singaporeans, Eve, and a younger American, Adam, gradually became a couple as they lived in the same dormitory. As ATW was only for six weeks, they decided to spend as much time together as possible before they went back to their own countries.
We met June, an outgoing NUS student on a 10-month exchange programme (JTW) at Kyūdai. Since she had hardly met any Singaporean, she invited all Singaporean students to her dormitory for dinner on a Saturday night. Eve brought Adam along, without informing June, whom she thought would not mind. Honestly, some of us were quite surprised, as June had really meant it to be an "all-Singaporean gathering" to let June feel at home, but everyone was sensitive enough to not say anything. I was worried if Adam would feel left-out as we spoke in Singlish and mingled extremely well with June, although we knew her for a shorter time than we knew him. He was very receptive, but remained quiet most of the time and seemed to enjoy our chattings.June had only seen Adam briefly in school but did not know him at all and did not interact much with him that night. When we ran out of food, Adam volunteered to buy some from a nearby supermarket, with Eve and other Singaporean boys. I guess he realised that he had to contribute as he was not one of us.
When we returned to our dormitories, June chatted with me online and confessed that she felt uneasy from not being informed beforehand. Also, although she had made some close American friends from JTW, she had met some who were racist against Asians. As I lived in the same dormitory as Adam, I explained that I understand her feelings but Adam was an accommodating person, as he was, after all, half-Japanese. I urged her to get to know Adam more if she had the chance, and since then, they would chat with each other whenever they met in school.What should Eve, June or even Adam have done initially to prevent the unspoken tension? Even though they did not express their discomfort explicitly, their actions did reveal some lessons to be learned.
